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Picking up the Pieces

Aside from working on my new WIP (work in progress), I’ve had some time to really think about the events that have shaped our nation over the past two years. The pandemic being my main focus and how it derailed so many goals, hopes, and dreams. Yes, it was that serious for many people, but I can only speak for myself. I was among those who didn’t suffer tragedy due to the coronavirus. I thank God every day, and my heart goes out to those who have. This blog post is just my fluff piece or takes on my pandemic experience and how it affected some huge goals.

How many of you said that 2020 would be your year? After 2019’s declarations of the worst year ever, 2020 was supposed to be the year of redemption for so many. I had plans to start social networking, something I hadn’t done in forever. As an introvert, this pandemic has been a turning point for me. I realized that I also need times of social gathering activities to balance me out. Especially with the thought of doing business. I’m not one of those tech-savvy personalities that shines through the camera. I need social interaction. As an empath, this is my way of connecting with people. I had plans to start a social business that involved interacting with people in person, and this was to be my coming out of my shell year. For the first time in a long time, I would start to make new friends as an adult.

Hearing news of the pandemic and what that would mean for social interaction, and ultimately business, I was devastated. I figured it would only last maybe a month or so. Surely, the government would do something to prevent a prolonged event or at least take extreme measures to prevent a spread. What I wasn’t expecting was mutations, government denial, or shutdowns and mandates. It was like a mini Twilight zone for so many. Social distancing and wearing masks became the norm. And I began to shrink right back into my shell. It’s a daunting task for someone who may lack adequate social connections to join in the popularity of Zoom parties with close friends or even family. It’s even harder for people without dedicated access to computers or the internet. Some of the elderly were just straight up neglected and abandoned in nursing homes.

The toll of social distancing during the pandemic set a lot of people’s goals behind or even destroyed them before they began. Some people couldn’t visit loved ones, travel to their favorite destination to escape their extraordinarily stressful everyday lives. We were all at one point, just stuck. Seeing a silver lining was almost impossible with the CDC not being able to provide a clear timeline as to when we’d get back to normal. I don’t know about you, but I hated the slogan, “New Normal.” I believe people rebelled because they didn’t want to come to terms with this idea. Neither did I, but I did my part in preventing the spread by wearing my mask, washing my hands frequently, social distancing, and eventually getting the vaccine when it was my turn.

I think back to the end of 2020 and when 2021 started, and we still didn’t see the end of Covid. Still, there are mutated outbreaks and crises all over the world as a result. I decided to regain my focus on writing in between getting back to just the regular “normal.” because it is the sanest response I could make due to my introverted nature. It’s a way to explore my talent while I wait for the day I’m brave enough to once again get out of my shell.

Thanks for reading! I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences in the comment section below.

Book Released and Networking. How Does This Work?

So, I’m just going to speak on my behalf and say that I am not good at social media. This is not at all a “how-to” article, nor will I be providing any knowledgeable information on how to network. This is just for fun and giggles to hide the fact that I’m actually freaking out about my new journey as a published author. Although writing comes easy for me because I have a big imagination and spent most of my life living in made-up scenarios in my head. It’s how I want to believe most writers deal, you know. I’m socially awkward, and I sometimes suffer from resting bitch face, so writing is a much-needed skill for the things I just can’t say if I tried. So herein lies the issue.

I don’t know about any of you other writers, but I’ve been struggling to find my actual voice outside of writing to promote my work and network. I had to write papers and think pieces for college, which was only bearable if I could be creative, but it taught me a lot about my writing style. But I noticed if I had to present information in person, I would generally clam up, stutter, and just fall short at effective presentations. I’m struggling to write this blog because I’m overthinking how informal I might sound if I said it out loud.

Most people don’t even know why people want to be writers, to begin with. That’s one selling point I try to not think about. Do people think it’s even a job outside of, say the person who writes box office movies or hit tv shows? Probably not, I mean, who cares, right? That would be the perfect thing to say, but I’m not perfect, and I wonder if this is why I fear networking as a writer. But just me writing about the love I feel for jazz may get the side-eye.

I genuinely don’t know how to sell writing honestly. I want people to know my love for sunsets and feel how I convey the color of the sky. Readers gone read, for sure. So, I’m banking on people who love to read. Side note, do you like to read the same type of stuff you write? I personally read a lot of romance. It’s probably not even healthy the kind of addiction I have with my kindle. But, I don’t necessarily gravitate towards romantic literature to write. Is this weird? Somebody. Anybody? Don’t leave me hanging.

Strategy or Not

One common strategy to social media is a “writer’s lift” or, as I call it, “chain gang.” Don’t get me wrong, I love it because that’s the only thing I know how to do on Twitter to actually promote my book. Then I’m met with maybe 30 other authors who are promoting to each other but aren’t we all just tryna make $10 on Amazon kindle?

I’ve also found it hard to connect with writers or publishers without feeling like I’m freaking someone out, thinking I’m weird. Like “Hey girl, I just saw your photo and author status. I don’t know you, but can we be friends?” And I’m always too happy and excited for my own good, but maybe that’s a good trait unless it’s someone shady trying to sell me a pre-paid publishing deal. Lastly, there’s the battle of finding a great author’s photo. I don’t have one yet. Hey, I still look like my “professional” photo, minus the filter, and 10 lbs I gained. But, I digress.

I really don’t take myself seriously despite my facial expressions most times. I love to laugh and connect with people to support them and learn from others who have already mastered the writing game. So, if this moved you in any way or you just want to add your funny perspectives, stories, or advice, please leave a comment.